Pep talk

Today is a new day you can do this!!!!

I hate when the kids get picked up to go to their dads. I mean it's his time, he's a good dad, but still sucks!! So this is what i have to say to myself to just understand, this is life, go make it better, for YOU. No one else can do it for you. There's no more excuses. Just go do you!! Sooooo.

Today is a new day, you can do this!!

Straighten up that crown and go!!!

Struggle of the mind

I find myself thinking....
I love more than words could explain.  I was so lost and yet my path led me here.  There's no one I would rather spend my time with. There's never been anyone I don't want to hide anything from.
Brutal truth was a concept that has become a reality everyday.
The differences between people are sometimes hard to understand but we try.
I came in like a wrecking ball, 4 kids and all to a man who never wanted kids. Found myself completely in love with something so different from my original plan.
You never think you will end up sharing your kids, losing almost everything you worked your life for and then trying to start a new family, a new life with someone who doesn't know your memories or theirs. There's pieces you lose along a path like that.  Building them back is harder than you think. But here I am on the brink of a new life, a new me, a new love that's just insanely right and he does love my kids. 
But wait...i don't know how to do this life and have my family dreams, love as passionately as i do but be my own person.
I'm still learning who I am. . .
I have to remind myself everyday that its ok to start a new life, its ok that the kids family just got bigger, that it might not be the original plan but its growing into something more than ever dreamed.

So have patience. I will rise from these ashes.

Almost there.

Difference of opinion

So my kids are outside playing with water guns and water sling shots cuz its hot out, they were told only one bucket of water so they are not in and out of the house refilling the bucket making a mess or waisting water as some pay for water. ....when checking on them we find my 8 year old son sitting on the ground with his head in the bucket of water.  Getting his hair wet, blowing bubbles, wishing he was in a pool who knows. .....i laugh because lets face it kinda a funny picture, and I smile because they are making due with what they have and not sitting inside playing video games, but i got a difference of opinion saying that was the stupidest thing ever why would he put his head in the bucket, comments like it must be a cultural thing, or I would never let my kids do that.... So now i'm looking for comments....who else's kids would put their head in a bucket??? Would you laugh? Would you stop them from doing it? .....????

Sometimes a song says it all

https://youtu.be/DmnKHNuzoUo

Choose to be a better people

We are all a universal people. There is no discrimination on Love. Each and everyone of us is meant to fly, to teach, to learn, to dream.  Soar high all you beautiful human beings. Reach for greatness. No more hate for your neighbors. If we can ban together in a world so full of selfishness and ridicule we can start a new world instead of destroying the one our elders have fought and worked so hard for.

Fated (a good read)

Legend has it there’s an intangible string of fate that binds two people destined to be together. Those connected are bound regardless of time, place or circumstance. Nothing can break the invisible thread between two people who are meant to be together.

The color red is strongly tied to attraction and desire. It is also the color of the string of fate that binds two soul mates.

The red string of fate is derived from an ancient East Asian belief. According to this myth, the Gods tie a red string around the ankles of those that are destined to meet each other or help each other in a certain way.

The concept is similar to the Western concept of a “soulmate” or a “twin flame.” What is different is that this proverb focuses more on the concept of being “bound” to someone rather than finding your other half.

Like many old legends, the story behind the red string is somewhat problematic. It is said that walking home one night, a little boy saw an old man reading a book. He asked him what he was reading. The old man said it was a book of marriages, and told the young boy he was destined to marry one girl. When he showed the little boy the girl he was to marry, though….

The boy didn’t like the idea because he didn’t want to get married. He threw a rock at her and ran away as fast as he could. Years later, a marriage was arranged between the boy and one of the most beautiful girls in the village. But, when he unveiled her he noticed…

His wife-to-be had a small scar over her eyebrow. When he asked her about it, she told him that a boy had thrown a rock at her as a child. Thus proving their fateful union...

What happens when it stretches and tangles? At the crux of this proverb is submitting to a higher power. Destiny will take its course, and in time all will fall into place. It is important not to fight the red thread.

Even if you find the person on the other end of the fateful red string, that doesn’t mean staying together will be easy. The proverb is meant to instill loyalty, devotion, and compassion. The string is also there to make sure lovers remain faithful to one another.

No matter how near or far you are from the person, the thread remains. There will be times when mentally or physically, you feel distant from the person, but that doesn’t affect the thread that binds you two together.

“The minute I heard my first love story I started looking for you, not knowing how blind I was. Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along.” — Rumi

According to Chinese legend, the deity in charge of the “Red string of Fate” is believed to be Yuè Xià Lǎo the old lunar matchmaker god. Yuè Xià Lǎo is also in charge of marriages.

In Japanese culture it is said the red string is tied around the pink finger. Hence the phrase “pinky swear.” Originally it indicated that the person who broke their promise had to cut off their pinky finger!

Caroline Highland of Thought Catalog writes, “The red threads don’t wind their way around our ankles as we walk, don’t catch on us as we brush past things—the Chinese believe that they emanate from us from birth, from the moment we enter the world. As we age, with each passing year, the threads grow tighter, bringing us close to the people whose lives are destined to intertwine with ours in some way.”

The same writer interprets the red thread as liberating. “How much easier it feels to fling ourselves out into the unknown, into a new place or stage of our lives, knowing those red threads are there, winding out into the future as they always have been, holding onto souls that will be waiting to catch us, teach us, touch us, change us.”

According to Wikipedia, “The two people connected by the red thread are destined lovers, regardless of place, time, or circumstances. This magical cord may stretch or tangle, but never break.”

Sex

Sex sells. There is all kinds of sex. We spend a good amount of time telling our kids not to have sex. But the "adults" of the world. Sex sex sex. Morning sex, morning wood, nooner or sooners, at night with the lights on, at night with the lights off, shower sex, floor sex, kitchen counter sex, outdoors sex, rip your clothes off sex, make love to me sex, quickies, omg are you done yet sex, pity sex, celebratory sex, back seat sex, where'd those bruises come from sex, first time sex, one night stand sex, fake it sex, wake the neighbors sex, romantic sex, wall sex, makeup sex, breakup sex, half asleep sex, drunk sex, surprise sex, married sex, group sex, do it yourself sex, ...
Sex decreases stress, burns calories, stretches muscles you forgot you had maybe....
So...ya... Moral of the story is sex... everyone does it, and everyone talks about it....